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Why You Stay in a Relationship That’s Overstayed Its Welcome
These hard truths keep you staying for the wrong reasons.
Trigger Warning: The following content includes personal experiences and discussions around difficult topics such as trauma, emotional challenges, childhood maltreatment, or abusive relationships. While my intent is to educate and share personal insights, some readers may find certain content emotionally distressing. This article is for informational purposes only.
Most of us do not jump headfirst into a relationship with the assumption that it is time-limited. We aren’t using one relationship to get over another or for ego validation. The reality is that if we are choosing a relationship for the wrong reasons, sooner or later what attracted us to that relationship will become the reason(s) we end up leaving. We know on an instinctual and subconscious level that if our motivations for wanting a relationship are not healthy, there is zero probability that we will be authentically happy or that the relationship can be sustainable.
Choosing a relationship for the wrong reasons is usually the exception — not the rule — when it comes to wanting to have someone in our lives with which to share intimacy and an authentic bond. No, the “perfect” relationship does not exist. And, no, we do not need to spend…
